If You’re Not Stealing a Kiss Under the Mistletoe

Cold weather.
Twinkling lights.
Glittering white snow.
Familiar music.
Nostalgic traditions.
Feelings of warmth and love.

These are the makings of the Christmas season.

I don’t know about you, but when this season rolls around, I get in a sentimental, sweet, and special sort of mood. I soak up my time spent with friends and family and treasure every special tradition we celebrate during the December month.

One of my favorite parts of the Christmas season is . . . wait for it . . . the Christmas music. I absolutely L-O-V-E Christmas music. I break all the rules. I started listening to Christmas music before Thanksgiving this year. I just can’t get enough of it!

One of my personal favorite Christmas songs is “Come On, Christmas” by Matthew West.

Well, there’s just something about this time of year
You can feel the excitement in the air
Everyone’s hangin’ with family and friends
And it’s making you feel like a kid once again
Steal a kiss under the mistletoe . . .

And then it happens—my bubble bursts with the talk of mistletoe. Romance and holidays seem to go hand-in-hand, which is fabulous if you’re in a relationship. But if you’re single (like I am), it causes a flood of negative feelings and emotions.

When You Can’t Kiss Under the Mistletoe

As a single girl, I totally get that the holiday season can be completely awesome and very difficult at the same time. Maybe there are some of you out there who have a love/hate relationship with the holidays. I’ve talked to countless single girls who have expressed their desire for just wanting that “someone special” to share the joys of the season with.

I get it!

We hear the music, we see the pictures, we feel the “love in the air,” and we just wish we had a man to enjoy it with. But we don’t. Some days it’s just little old me with my Christmas music and peppermint mocha. I dream of the day when I will have a family of my own and someone to “steal a kiss under the mistletoe” with, but that’s not my current reality.

From one single girl to another, I want to share with you a new perspective and a little bit of hope. As my Christmas gift to you, I’m passing along some nuggets of truth that have helped me remain joyful, happy, and content during the holidays, despite my relationship status (a.k.a. still single).

Don’t Compare

A trap we single girls are notorious for stepping in is the comparison trap. We compare our lives to those around us and then cry because we don’t have what others have. God has a different plan and time frame for each one of our lives. Let’s remember that God is all-powerful, all-knowing, all-loving, all-amazing, and totally in control. You can trust Him with your relationship status. Trust that His timing is best, and don’t compare His plan for you to His plan for others.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths (Prov. 3:5–6).

Remain Outward-Focused

When life is all about “me, me, and me” it becomes very sad and depressing. Get your eyes focused on others and choose to bless those around you during this holiday season. Be creative and think of ways to add some unexpected fun to those closest to you. Do something this season to unexpectedly bless someone around you. Here are a few ideas:

  • Bake and decorate sugar cookies with your siblings.
  • Read a book by the fire. (Lamplighter books are some of my faves.)
  • Drink hot chocolate, and look through baby albums.
  • Write cards to soldiers.
  • Visit a nursing home.

Make New Memories

Don’t let this season slip by without making some amazing new memories. Awesome memories aren’t reserved for those only in romantic relationships. As single girls, we can have just as much fun and memory making as those in relationships. You just need to make an effort to create those special moments.

Focus on the Reason for the Season

Take some time to read through either Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John over the next few weeks. Ask God to help you remember that Jesus is the true reason for the season. The movie The Nativity Story is also an incredible reminder of what the season is all about.

How do you remain joyful and content during the “romantic holiday season” as a single girl? How do you keep a smile on your face when it feels like all of your friends are happily enjoying the mistletoe?

Tell me about it below.

About Author

Bethany Beal

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog (www.GirlDefined.com) and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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