What are your Facebook pics communicating?

“I’m SEXY enough … to keep you waiting.” That’s the copy on a skimpy new tank top created by the Candies brand. Released as a part of the Candies Foundation, which exists in part to reduce teen pregnancy and encourage abstinence, it is one abstinence shirt you don’t want to wear. It sends a mixed message! The T-shirt tantalizes more than it reinforces a message of abstinence.

Here’s the deal. You probably just read that and said, “I’d NEVER wear that shirt!” And I believe you. But what message do your profile pictures on Facebook send? Yep, I’m on Facebook. I decided to take the dive about two months ago, and I’m practically addicted. (I have to completely unplug on some days to maintain self-control. Does anyone know what I mean?) I love, love, love the connections I’m making with my readers and old friends. I love being able to send notes of encouragement or Scripture to the teens Bob and I mentor at our Christian high school.

What I don’t love is confronting someone.

But I have.

You see, some of you—my beloved readers and strong followers of Christ—post photographs that might as well say “I’m SEXY enough … to keep you waiting.” There’s a “look” that says it. Actually, there are a lot of looks that say it. I can’t really describe it, but a lot of you know what I mean. The pouty lips and dreamy eyes. The eyebrow raised with a slightly open mouth. Sometimes even tongue action!

I confronted a girl I know about it last week. I know her to be a strong Christian from a strong Christian family. The picture was of her and another friend, and they were posing as if they were going to lick each other’s faces. My friend thought it was just a silly picture. But I shared with her my concerns about what it might conjure up in the minds of her guy friends on Facebook. She said, “I will remove the picture out of respect for you, but I don’t see anything wrong with it.” I appreciated that she did that, but I was still concerned that she didn’t get it. So I asked her to talk to her mom, who was mortified with the picture. And after a long talk with her mom and dad, I think my friend might be starting to get it.

Remember, guys are wired to be intoxicated by our beauty. It’s how God created them. (Proverbs 5:18–19 says that a man can “rejoice in the wife of [his] youth,” and those are some pretty steamy verses. This is God’s plan, but the steamy stuff is supposed to be within the confines of marriage.) For the eyes of everyone other than my husband, I carry a responsibility to be modest and careful with how I present myself. Let’s pick up that responsibility on Facebook and post photos with discernment, okay? Let’s live out Romans 14:21 and be careful not to cause our Christian brothers to stumble.

So here’s the challenge. Go through your profile pictures with your mom. And maybe your dad because he knows how a guy’s mind works.  (He is, after all, a guy!) Be willing to learn and understand the difference between a “Hey, world! I’m here” picture and an “I’m SEXY enough … to keep you waiting” picture! Then have a humble and willing heart to remove anything your mom and dad think should go, even if you don’t understand or agree.

And, oh yeah, friend me so I can see your beautiful “Hey, world! I’m here” pictures!

About Author

Dannah Gresh is completely in love with her chocolate labradoodle, Stormie. (But just for the record, she doesn't like dog kisses.) She's been married to Bob for over twenty years and loves that he brings her "freshly sharpened bouquets of pencils." She's the mom to Lexi, Autumn, and Rob. Oh, and she co-wrote Lies Young Women Believe with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth!

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