My little brother is obsessed with fishing. When l say obsessed, I don’t mean he goes fishing every once in awhile and has a couple different types of hooks. He’s got every different kind of lure you could imagine, several different rods, and who knows how many different books on what kind of thingamajig you should use to catch a such-and-such kind of fish. (Obviously, I’m super into all the terms and technicalities. HA!)
Now, you might be asking, “Why is Liza telling us about thingamajigs and such-and-suchs that don’t have anything to do with anything?” Because I have a hunch that you and I have done our fair share of fishing, too.
I didn’t think l was the fishergirl type. But then I had to think again. No, I don’t strap on my waders and fishing gear every morning and march down to the pond. But lots of times, I’m tempted to go fishing in a completely different way.
What are you fishing for? We are far too often told that our bodies are our worth, that they are what give us beauty. It’s not a pretty thing to say, but everywhere we look we get the message to use our bodies as fishing lures. And I’m not just talking about what we wear. Yes, that’s part of it, but it’s just a small part. There’s more to this conversation than hem lengths and necklines.
Listen to Peter’s words in 1 Peter 3:4:
But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.
Just before this verse, Peter talked about our outward appearance (in a word, that we should dress respectfully). But here, Peter mentions how we dress our hearts.
Dressing in a way that doesn’t reveal the secret beauty of our body that God has given us is extremely important. But if our heart attitude is focused on fishing, whether for compliments, admiring looks, or a guy’s attention (can we all agree that the last one is probably the most likely?), we’ll be fishing no matter what we’re wearing. You might not be flaunting skin, but if your goal is to snag all the attention for yourself, what you’re wearing won’t change your heart.
How we carry ourselves and our body language can be just as seductive as a skimpy bathing suit. If we fish with our bodies, we can’t expect to catch anything but body-snatchers (a term l borrowed from Andy Stanley in his sermon series Love, Sex, and Dating).
Fishermen use the bait that’s going to attract the fish they want to catch. Girl, don’t use your body to get what you want (whether it’s a boyfriend, guy’s attention, compliments, etc.). It’s not worth it. Your body is a beautiful treasure from the Creator of the universe. It’s not a piece of meat for eyes to feast on. And that’s not just about your clothing but more about the way you carry yourself.
Leave Your Pole at Home
If you, like myself, struggle with wanting to fish in all the wrong ways for all the wrong things, here are a few things to remind us that that’s not why God made us.
1.We aren’t meant to get our fulfillment from anything but Jesus.
Nothing else can satisfy us, and when we go fishing, we’re basically saying to Jesus, “Yeah, You’re great, but l need compliments, attention, and affirmation to really feel fulfilled.” When that doesn’t work, it’s time for us to realize that Jesus is the only One who can satisfy us.
2. Fishing becomes a habit.
It may seem harmless to swing your hips a little more when that cute guy walks onto the dance floor, but fishing becomes a habit. Over time, we begin to depend on fishing as our only way to get attention.
3. Jesus wants something better for you.
His love doesn’t have to be fished for; it’s already ours. Why do we run after things that we think will satisfy us? Why do we chase things that will disappoint? Let’s use our energy to run after Him and leave the fishing to the guys with hooks and poles.
So take some time to consider with me: Are we using ourselves as lures to get the attention we crave? What do you find yourself most often fishing for? What are you fishing with? Let’s talk in the comments section!