What advice would you give a friend with a broken heart?

Let me introduce you to my friend Sarah.

Actually, that’s not her real name. I’ve changed her name for this post because what I am going to share with you is pretty private. But I’ve decided to share her struggles with you because I think we can all learn from them.

broken heartHere’s some background. Sarah’s a sophomore in high school. She loves Jesus. She has been a committed Christian since she was a little girl. Her parents love Jesus, too. They regularly attend church as a family. She’s not allowed to date until her senior year. She’s committed to purity. She’s never been kissed and wants to wait to say, “I love you” until it really counts (preferably at the point when she is ready to become engaged).

And yet … Sarah has a broken heart.

You see there’s this guy. Sarah’s had a major crush on him since eighth grade. They’ve become really close friends who spend a lot of time together. In fact, they call each other best friends. Recently he expressed interest in being more than friends. She agreed. They exchanged a few sweet text messages and a long hug or two and then … nothing. He just stopped texting. He stopped calling. They were back in Friendville.

Sarah’s been calling me a lot lately. She feels rejected. She feels confused. Mostly she just feels sad. She wants things to go back to the way they were before, but that’s impossible. Her fella is interested in other girls, and she can’t stand it. Because her heart is broken, she is fighting with her mom, dreading school, and skipping meals.

Here’s the hardest part—Sarah did everything right. She didn’t rush into romance. She followed God’s purity standards. And yet, she’s still struggling.

Because the Bible is a living book, I believe it has some tailor-made wisdom for Sarah’s situation. I’ve been sharing God’s truth with Sarah often recently. But since I’m an OMT (old married type), sometimes I get the impression that she’s not sure I know what I’m talking about. It’s true that it’s been a very long time since I’ve had a broken heart. And to be honest, I didn’t guard my heart as well as Sarah has when I was her age. I can’t exactly say, “I’ve been there and done that and I know just how you feel.”

But I know some of you have. You’ve kept a commitment not to date. You’ve stayed as far away from the line of sexual sin as possible. You desire to honor God with your romantic relationships, and still, your heart has been broken by a guy.

I want you to step into the role of truth speaker for a moment. What advice would you give to Sarah? What specific Scriptures would you use to encourage her? What has God taught you through your own struggle with brokenheartedness?

I will post my advice for those of you who are struggling like Sarah tomorrow. But for now, I want you to encourage each other. Just pretend you’re having girl talk over a caramel latte (yum!). Sarah needs to hear from you, and I have a hunch that some of you need encouragement in this area, too.

About Author

Erin Davis is an author, blogger, and speaker who loves to see women of all ages run to the deep well of God’s Word. She is the author of many books and Bible studies including: 7 Feasts, Connected, Beautiful Encounters, and the My Name Is Erin series. She serves on the ministry team of Revive Our Hearts. When she’s not writing, you can find Erin chasing chickens and children on her small farm in the Midwest.

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