We Don’t Struggle Alone

Do you ever feel alone in your struggle with fear of the future? How about when you fight insecurity? Or lust? Do you look around you and think, “I’m the only person who struggles with this.”

If so, hear me: you don’t struggle alone. 

I was recently at a huge young adults conference. The final morning of the conference left an image in my mind I won’t forget.

We had just finished an impactful time of worship. The room lights dimmed, and the huge screen lit up, asking us to take our phones out and turn on the flashlight. We were going to take a poll. If your answer was “yes” to a question, you simply raised your flashlight and then lowered it again.

The questions began, and flashlights starting bobbing up and down. With the fourth question, things began to get brutally honest:

“Do you struggle with fear?”
“Do you struggle with insecurity?”
“Do you struggle with secret sexual sin?”
“Do you doubt God?”

Thousands of flashlights lit up the room.

It was one of the most powerful moments of my life. Not just because of everyone else’s vulnerability, but because in lighting up the room with flashlights, thousands were acknowledging “yes, we struggle” while also seeing “I’m not the only one who struggles with this!”

That moment inspired this post. As we raised our flashlights, we represented everyone who wasn’t there to raise a flashlight. You. Your best friend. The girls in your youth group. Life isn’t easy, and we are all going to struggle. You might struggle with everything listed above. You might only struggle with one or two of them. And when you do, here are three things to remember.

1. You are never, ever alone.

When Israel was facing brutal enemies and the unknown, God told them this: “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you. . . . Do not fear or be dismayed” (Deut. 31:6, 8).

Even when you feel alone in the struggle, God is right there with you. Ask Him for strength to overcome what you’re facing and thank Him that because of His Spirit being alive in you, you are never, ever alone.

2. Transparency beats loneliness.

If you can put together a small group of friends to be transparent with and spur each other on, do it! Even if it’s just with a friend over the phone. When we talk about our struggle, it’s like holding up a flashlight in a dark room. Other people respond, and the darkness is pushed back. Transparency overcomes loneliness.

3. Don’t believe the lie.

Listen again to God’s promise to His people.

He has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Heb. 13:5).

Write it on your mirror. Your phone. Your car windshield. Think about the thousands of flashlights flickering on in that room. Yes you will struggle. But no, you do not struggle alone.

The next time you’re struggling and hear that little voice whispering, “you’re alone in this fight . . . and you can’t tell anyone,” run to the truth found in God’s Word. Talk about it. Be transparent. Here is a list of verses to remind you that God is always with you. Run to them!

Verses to use in the fight against loneliness:

Now it’s time to be transparent: do you feel alone in your struggles with fear or insecurity or doubting God?

About Author

Beecher Proch

Beecher Proch calls the Hill Country of Texas home. When he’s not writing, performing with his three siblings in their band, or attempting to get a smile out of someone, you’ll probably find him working on a new entrepreneurial venture. Beecher is passionate about influencing the world for Christ’s Kingdom through stories, be that blogging, writing meaningful music, or going about it the old-fashioned way and taking a pen to the page.

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