Unmarried and Pregnant. What Should She Do Now?

Most of us know the story of how an angel appeared to Mary and told her she had been chosen out of all the women in the world to give birth to the Son of God. Okay. That’s heavy news. Very heavy. And we probably know that she responded obediently saying, “Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word” (Luke 1:38). This precious young woman makes my heart sing by her obedient response to God’s call. I love her courage!

But have you ever noticed what Mary did right after the angel left her? The very next scene shows Mary running to Elizabeth’s house! Luke tells us she went “with haste” to her cousin’s home in the hill country.

Try to imagine for a moment what Mary must’ve been going through. She was young, probably in her early to mid-teens. She was unmarried and pregnant. As far as Mary knew, her entire future was in jeopardy. Who would marry her now? How would society ever accept her? What would happen to her? Saying “yes” to God meant she had to put her trust wholly in Him.

Though Mary’s heart must have been full of intensely mixed emotions and uncertainty, she found a refuge in God through Elizabeth.

When we’re overwhelmed with fear or anxiety, self-destructive tendencies can rear their ugly heads. Maybe you turn to food or shopping or attention from guys to quiet your fears. Maybe you have an addiction that shows up when you’re anxious and promises to make you feel better. When we’re fearful, we’re vulnerable. God knows this. That’s why He didn’t design us to live life alone.

Whatever you find yourself facing right now, whether it’s a serious crisis or ordinary fears, turn to your heavenly Father when you need comfort. Why not ask an older woman for help and encouragement? That’s exactly what Mary did.

My friend, Jani, has been an Elizabeth in my life. She has encouraged me and led me to Christ by example. She has wrestled through difficult questions with me and comforted me when I was grieving. Life would be so much scarier without her!

Ask God to show you who your Elizabeth might be. Is there someone you look up to in your family or your church? If you don’t know her very well, you might ask her out for a salted caramel hot chocolate and some conversation. (If someone invited me out for a salted caramel hot chocolate, I’d say yes!) Ask if it would be okay for you to call her or email her if you need some advice. You could even ask if she’d be willing to meet with you once a month for six months. Following Christ requires courage and guidance. We were never meant to do it alone!

Do you have an Elizabeth in your life?

About Author

Jennifer Case Cortez is a literary-agent-turned-stay-at-home-mom. She loves connecting young women with God's Word, and her writing has been featured in the Mom's Bible, the Devotional Bible for Dads, and the Life Promises Bible. Jennifer loves playing her guitar, eating Nashville hot chicken, and hanging out with her husband Daniel and their four children: Sam, Joshua, Jacob, and Evelyn Grace.

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