I had a baby this week. His name is Elisha and he is perfect. His little fingers and toes make me weak and I am frequently moved to tears over the miracle of his life. I am in full-on mommy mode. My days are now spent burping, changing, cuddling and feeding this adorable bundle and I’m tickled pink. But, if you had caught me a few short years ago, I would have assured you that a baby was not in the cards for me. If you had asked me about my purpose on the planet, I would have responded with an answer that centered around my career instead of my home and family. I misunderstood God’s design for me as a woman. I am not alone.
As I traveled the country to do research for Lies Young Women Believe, I found countless young women who admitted that they didn’t feel free to pursue becoming wives and mothers as their primary purpose. The said things like “ For me the whole family idea is kind of overrated,” and “It is not about families and having kids anymore. Women are expected to have careers, too.” One young lady spelled it out in black and white. “It has become uncool to want a husband and a family,” she announced.
Many of you have fallen prey to the lies of the world in the area of God’s design for you as a woman. You feel driven to find your worth through your future career and to deny God’ purpose for you within the home.
The truth is that God created women to be a helper to man and a mother of children. Genesis 2:18 announces “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone, I will make a helper fit for him.” In LYWB, Dannah and Nancy assert that for most of us, God has called us to serve by being a helper to a husband.
“While God sets apart some women to serve Him as singles, that is an exception,” they write in Chapter 12. “God’s norm is for women to serve Him by completing a husband. If that is His calling for you, there’s no more fulfilling or significant role you could have,” Fulfilling? Significant? Can completing a husband really lead to significant fulfillment? Not according to the world, but God’s Word is clear – this is God’s design.
His design also includes children. God created a woman to be a mother of children. As women, we are uniquely equipped to be bearers and nurturers of life. But the girls I interviewed didn’t even feel the freedom to say that they wanted to be mothers. They clearly felt pressure to pursue careers first and consider children only after vocational success had been achieved, Dannah interviewed a young man named Ryan on this topic to get a guy’s perspective. Here’s what he had to say. “The world is telling girls that they don’t have the freedom to even choose to pursue being a wife and a mom.” Ryan recognizes that the pressure to shy away from the roles of wife and mother come from the world. What about you? Do you feel pressure in this area? Do you recognize the source of that pressure? Do you feel free to pursue purpose centered around the roles of wife and mother? Can you find evidence in Scripture to back up the claim that this is God’s design?
I’d love to hear your thoughts. I promise to check in between diaper changes!