The Longing Heart of a Soon-to-Be Bride

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I stood at the place where the Atlantic Ocean kissed the rough sands of a Cuban beach. The sun’s last light lit up the clouds like tangerine cotton candy, the salty wind pulling at the tops of waves and playing with stray strands of my hair. I closed my eyes and took a deep breath—tried to draw in the beauty of it, hoping it would fill the space inside that felt so . . . missing. It didn’t work. When I opened my eyes, the swaying ocean, though magical, only reminded me of the stormy blue of his eyes.

I longed for him so much it hurt.

We have a heavenly fiancé to fix our anticipation on.

It had been almost three months since I left my Californian home to study in Central America; almost three months since his presence was tangible, not just a thought or a memory. The fact that he wanted to marry me in six months made me secure in his love despite the 2,716 miles between us, but it didn’t stop the longing. Nope. It just made it worse.

I couldn’t seem to go an hour without thinking about him, dreaming about “us,” counting down the minutes until this soon-to-be turned Mrs. I knew we were going to be reunited—that all the passion welling up inside me would finally find release. But in the meantime, the desire to be with him was so intense it almost physically hurt.

Longing for a Groom

There’s a Chris Tomlin song, “Even So Come,” that keeps taking me back to that Cuban beach. The chorus goes:

Like a bride waiting for her groom
We’ll be a Church ready for You
Every heart longing for our King
We sing
Even so come
Lord Jesus, come

I’ve listened to it like a gazillion times this summer. And every time, I try to remember what it felt like to long for a groom and let the memory of that ache inspire me to long yet again for another future Husband. Because the truth is, if we’ve put our faith in Christ, we have a heavenly fiancé to fix our anticipation on. We know there’s a wedding in our future, because He has promised to come for His bride—us, the Church. In Revelation, we get a glimpse of that future, happy day:

“The time has come for the wedding feast of the Lamb, and his bride has prepared herself. She has been given the finest of pure white linen to wear. . . . Blessed are those who are invited to the wedding feast of the Lamb” (Rev. 19:7–9).

The longer we follow Jesus in this life, the more anxious we should become for life-ever-after with Him.

The parallels are rich, aren’t they? We’ve had a taste of Jesus in this life, but the best—our complete union—is yet to come. We are going to be with Him—physically with Him! The longer we follow Jesus in this life, the more anxious we should become for life-ever-after with Him. We know we are going to be reunited, and all the passion welling up in our hearts for Jesus will finally find release.

So in the meantime, let’s become the soon-to-be bride that can’t seem to go more than an hour without thinking about Him, dreaming about “us,” and counting down the minutes until our Groom takes us into His arms for eternity.

What do you think keeps us from longing for Jesus and His return like a soon-to-be bride? Share any ideas you have for keeping our Groom in the front of our minds.

About Author

Jessie Minassian

Jessie Minassian is a speaker, blogger, and the author of ten books and Bible studies, including Crushed, Unashamed, and Backwards Beauty. She is the "resident big sis" at LifeLoveandGod.com, a Q&A website for teen girls. Her work for teens and their parents has been featured internationally through outlets such as Focus on the Family, Parenting Today’s Teens, She Reads Truth, Axis, Revive Our Hearts and YouthWorker Journal. She and her husband live and serve at Hume Lake Christian Camps in California, and have two daughters.

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