Ten Questions to Ask Your Relatives on Thanksgiving Day

Your paper plate is about to fold from the weight of glazed carrots, stuffing, turkey and gravy, and cranberry sauce, so you quickly sit down across from those relatives you only see about once every 365 days. You make eye contact . . . and your brain goes to mush—just like those mashed potatoes piled high in front of you.

You know you should talk about something deeper than who just got the boot on Survivor, or who sang what on The Voice, but you’re about as empty as that basket of your aunt’s award-winning croissant rolls.

That’s when you either:

  1. Stare at your plate while shoveling pumpkin pie into your mouth to the tune of strained silence, or
  2. Whip out your iPhone and ask a few meaningful (but not too awkward!) questions I cooked up for ya.

Your pick. (Just prepare to answer these questions yourself! It’s not fair to ask others a question you’re not willing to answer as well.)

  1. What’s one of the most meaningful ways someone has thanked you? (Ever, or this past year—you pick.)
  2. What’s one of the most meaningful ways you’ve thanked someone else?
  3. What difficulty from this past year are you most thankful for, and how did the lessons you learned through it change something about your life?
  4. Who’s one of the most consistently thankful people you know? Tell me about them.
  5. What’s one of the most meaningful gifts you’ve received? (Ever, or this past year—you pick.) How did you respond?
  6. What’s one thing you’ve found yourself saying thanks for over and over and over and over? Like, you just can’t hold your thankfulness in—it insists on oozing out!
  7. What’s something you struggle to thank God for?
  8. Tell me about a time you pretended to be thankful but really weren’t.
  9. What’s one thing that you think keeps you from expressing gratitude more often?
  10. Is there anyone you’ve been meaning to thank, but haven’t gotten around to it yet? Who? (Can you do it today?)

Let me know how it goes! Did you learn anything new about your relatives? Have any meaningful conversations? I hope so!

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her son, Iren, and writing for Revive Our Hearts. She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in New York. You can catch all her writing on PaulaWrites.com.

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