Summer Book Club: Virtue vs. a Virginity Trophy

Can you believe it? We are halfway through our summer book club! This week, we tackled week five of True Woman 201: Interior Design and zeroed in on living lives of virtue.

I don’t know about you, but “virtue” conjures up images of my grandma. In fact, she had a giant book titled The Book of Virtues sitting on her shelf. But this week’s study helped me grasp that virtue isn’t an old-fashioned standard just for grandmas; it is a critical part of the Christian life.

In True Woman 201, Nancy and Mary put it this way:

Virtue and purity are two sides of the same coin: the presence of goodness and the absence of defilement (p. 111).

Still not sure what virtue is and why it matters? Check out the video below, and then keep reading. I’ll give you two specific verses to pray in the pursuit of virtue (and a HUGE giveaway).

Stop Polishing Your Virginity Trophy

In the video, I confessed that for many years I had a virginity trophy in my mind. I would polish it up any time I felt superior to someone else or wanted to justify what I saw as a “smaller sin.” But those attitudes stunk! I was being a lot like the Pharisees whom Jesus called “whitewashed tombs” and “grimey cups.” That’s because purity isn’t just about saying “no” to the junk; it’s about replacing impurities with godliness. Being a virgin who was judgmental, prideful, and sometimes rude wasn’t the same as being pure.

A virtuous woman cares more about becoming more like Christ than she does about sticking to a list of do’s and don’ts. That doesn’t look like a trophy. It looks more like this:

Purity and virtue are not easy, but with God’s help we can get rid of the junk and replace it with godliness. (Remember how to be a RELYer, not a DENYer? If not, here’s a review).

Two Prayers to Pray This Week

As we ask the Lord to fill us with goodness and godliness, here are two prayers we can pray straight from God’s Word:

Search me, O God, and know my heart!
Try me and know my thoughts!
And see if there be any grievous way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting! (Ps. 139:23–24).

Create in me a clean heart, O God,
and renew a right spirit within me (Ps. 51:10).

So how about you?

  • Do you think of your Christian walk as a list of do’s and don’ts?
  • Are you as concerned about saying “yes” to godliness as you are saying “no” to sin?
  • Are there any trophies you polish up in your mind?

Leave me a comment with your answers below. I’ll pick two of you to win a HUGE giveaway this week.

Giveaway #1: A copy of And the Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh.

Giveaway #2: A And the Bride Wore White bundle with ten copies of the book (valued at $120!) so you can pass them out to your friends (or launch your own summer book club!).

For extra chances to win, Tweet a link to this post. Be sure to give me a shout-out @lywbblog!

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About Author

Erin Davis is an author, blogger, and speaker who loves to see women of all ages run to the deep well of God’s Word. She is the author of many books and Bible studies including: 7 Feasts, Connected, Beautiful Encounters, and the My Name Is Erin series. She serves on the ministry team of Revive Our Hearts. When she’s not writing, you can find Erin chasing chickens and children on her small farm in the Midwest.

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