Studying With Mom

mother and daughterI admit that the phrase “mother-daughter activities” always made me groan inside. Don’t get me wrong—I love spending time with my mom, but planned activities always seemed to ring of homework. I never wanted time with her to feel like a class.

That all changed when Mom got together with a group of friends (who also had daughters) and planned a book study. They were inspired by Titus 2:3–5, which says that adult Christian women should invest in the lives of younger girls: “Older women likewise are to … teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.”

Once a week, they resolved to meet up and read a chapter of a book on Christian living. Although we called this a “book study,” we usually ended up doing what girls seem to do best—talk. Yet the conversation wasn’t your normal, light chat.

With their Bibles open, our moms poured out the lessons they’d learned over the years. Sharing their hearts—sometimes tearfully—they recalled past experiences and reflected on how God worked in their lives. I was amazed to find the very same feelings and struggles that I am going through have been present in the life of my mother or one of the other moms.

To my surprise, this wasn’t awkward in the least. It felt constructive, yes, and purposeful too, but never stiff or uncomfortable.

Now, you can probably guess what I’m going to encourage you to do next. I’m going to highly recommend that you start your own book study.

Wait, you might say, “My mom isn’t available for a book study. I can’t do this.” If your mom isn’t able to join you in a book study, try asking a godly older woman from church if she’d be willing to read the book and mentor you. Don’t know of a godly woman at church? Ask your pastor to put you in touch with someone.

You might say, “I don’t know of any good books to read.” Here’s a list of suggestions:

  • Girl Talk by Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Mahaney Whitacre
  • Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh (of course!)
  • Living the Cross Centered Life by C.J. Mahaney
  • Crazy Love by Francis Chan

Let me know if you decide to do a book study, or if you already have, tell me how it’s going. If you’ve completed one before, post your ideas or suggestions for group activities!

About Author

Hannah Farver

As an accomplished communicator, writer, and nationally ranked public speaker, this homeschool graduate likes to talk. Currently, she works part-time as a speech and drama instructor. In her "spare" time, Hannah enjoys singing old musical numbers, swing dancing, spending time with friends and family, and attempting to brew the perfect cup of chai. She lives outside Dallas, Texas with her parents, brother and two sisters.

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