So Much More Than Random Acts of Kindness

Kind words don’t naturally come pouring out of my mouth. I’m quick to speak my opinion, respond without really listening, and say what I want to say without considering how my words impact the person listening.

Kindness is not my natural bent.

It’s not your natural bent, either. In fact, not one of us is prone to selflessly listening, putting others first, denying ourselves, or anything along those lines. We gravitate toward the opposite end of the spectrum. That’s why God has so much to say about this topic in His Word. He knows our sin. He knows we desperately need His strength to reflect kindness to the people in our families, at school, at work, at church, in the coffee shop line—everywhere.

Kindness is a quality I desperately want to cultivate this year. 

I want to be a kind woman. I want others to feel encouraged when they’re around me. I want to choose to show kindness both to the people that are easy for me to love and to the people that are hard for me to love. I want God to develop kindness in me so that it will overflow no matter the circumstance.

Will you join me in the pursuit of kindness? Let’s ask God to change our hearts, for Him to help us reflect His kindness to the broken world around us. Let’s ask Him to change us from the inside out so that kindness pours from our hearts—even when we’re interacting with someone who isn’t so kind themselves.

10 Scripture Passages to Help You Cultivate Kindness

Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Eph. 4:31–32)

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger. (James 1:19)

She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (Prov. 31:26)

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. (1 Cor. 13:4–7)

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, humility, kindness, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. (Col. 3:12–15)

If possible, as far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. (Rom. 12:18)

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. (Phil. 2:3–4)

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. (Eph. 4:29)

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. (Rom. 12:10)

A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. (Prov. 15:4)

It’s God’s grace and power that can change our naturally selfish hearts into kind, Jesus-like hearts! And God is able to do abundantly more than we could ever ask or think. I would love to see Him change me into a much kinder woman. I would love for my words to be sweet to those who hear them.

If you’d like to join me in working on kindness, leave a comment below. Let’s pull together and pray for one another. With God’s help, we can become kinder women this year.

About Author

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog ( and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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