So Long Hollywood Man

so longHollywood has been cramming lies down our throats for a long time. It’s time we stood up and said, "No more!" I personally am sick of the self-centered, sex-crazy, girl-obsessed guys that Hollywood offers me. I often wonder why we as young women are accepting this low standard of masculinity. Is there anything else out there besides the Hollywood male? Do mighty warriors and honorable gentleman still exist?

In the very beginning God created Adam to work in the garden. He tended the garden and animals by providing for the basic needs of his home. God then gave him a beautiful woman to love and cherish, to lead and protect as his most valued creature that God had given him.

Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."… But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man (Gen. 2:18, 20–22).

Before sin entered the world, man was created to tend the garden, take care of the animals, love and take care of his wife, and live in fellowship with God. The woman was created to help the man serve God. Eve was designed to help Adam fulfill his responsibilities. She was there to love and nurture him. After sin entered the world, things changed dramatically. Selfishness and pride became rampant. Women rebelled against God’s design as helper and starting fighting against the man instead of working with him. Fortunately, God gave us some more advice on how to relate to one another in a sinful world.

For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its savior…. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Eph. 5:23, 25).

The typical Hollywood guy is self-focused, pleasure-seeking, crude, wimpy, irresponsible, lust-driven, immature, and vain.

God’s guy chooses to be pure, noble, honorable, trustworthy, moral, generous, reliable, dependable, chaste, a protector, a provider, a leader, and selfless.

The world tells us that if we follow the biblical pattern for the male and female relationships, we will be trampled by men. Not true! In comparison to a Hollywood, sex-crazed male, a biblical man is sounding a whole lot better to me. If a guy chooses to follow God’s design for how a man should live, he will treat women with respect, honor, dignity, and purity. He won’t trample on you, but love and cherish you, as Christ loves the Church. God is the original Creator and Designer of men, so He would know best as to what the male’s position should be. God’s desire is that all men honor Him and strive to protect the safety and honor of a woman.

Jesus was the perfect man who displayed all of those wonderful characteristics. Although no man can reach perfection until heaven, we are still commanded to pursue this standard: "that you may become blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world" (Phil. 2:15).

When you compare God’s man to Hollywood’s man, he really does shine like a star in a crooked and depraved generation.

There are definitely young men out in the world who see God’s original design and realize that they are to be imitators of Christ. They have that vision and are actively pursing a pure and holy lifestyle. 

I personally know several young men striving after that vision to be pure, honorable, trustworthy etc. There are young men scattered around the country who have tried Hollywood’s formula for macho maleness and have fallen flat on their faces. They’ve finally realized that happiness lies in Jesus and true masculinity is a man willing to fight for the truth of God’s Word. A godly man is a fighter for truth—not a fighter for conquest but a fighter for purity and honor. Just talking about such a noble man makes me excited!

It’s time. Watch out Hollywood, we are done with you and your macho men. We have seen the truth, and we are no longer accepting that watered-down version of males. We know there are men in the world who are willing to strive for holiness. Those are the true mighty men!


About Author

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog ( and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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