Serena’s Secret Sin

After months of pure misery, Serena couldn’t keep the secrets to herself any longer. They were tearing her life apart piece by piece. Every secret she kept only made it harder for her to reveal what was really going on in her life. Serena and I were friends. She called me one night on the phone and couldn’t hold back the tears as she shared what had been going on in her life.

Serena told me about the crowd she had been hanging out with. They would sneak off to watch R-rated movies without their parents’ knowing. That compromise led to other sins. She was ashamed and embarrassed while she spoke. Deep down, Serena knew that what she was doing wasn’t honoring God, and she wanted to stop.

How did Serena get to a place that was so far away from honoring God? It all started when she made that first small compromise. She should have stopped hanging out with those friends the moment she realized they were in rebellion against their parents and God. Instead, she allowed the fear of being rejected and disliked to overrule her better judgment. By keeping those secrets and living in sin, she caused herself months of misery and shame. She was in bondage to what she thought would be “fun.”

The truth is, we all struggle with something in our lives, don’t we? Serena isn’t a special case. It can be anything from being rude to your brothers or sisters to being in a secret relationship with a boy. Maybe you struggle with dwelling on negative thoughts about yourself, thinking you’re ugly or that you’re too fat or too skinny. You don’t see yourself the way your Creator sees you, uniquely designed by the hand of God.

Whatever your struggle may be, keeping it a secret will not set you free. You need to be open and honest with your parents and share what’s going on in your life. Confess your secret sins to God and ask Him to forgive you for rebelling against Him. True, confessing your sins out loud to your parents might be the hardest thing you have ever done, but it may be among the most freeing as well.

Proverbs 28:13 says, “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.”

When you keep your sins a secret, you give Satan a strong foothold in your heart. Don’t leave the door of your heart cracked for Satan to come in and take that area to destroy your life. Remember, the devil comes to STEAL, KILL, and DESTROY (John 10:10). He doesn’t want you to be open with your struggles or get help. He wants you to fail. He wants you to believe that it’s okay to keep those little struggles hidden, but it’s not okay! Small struggles turn into bigger ones that slowly take over.

When you confess your sins, it will start a healing process and you will begin to gain strength over that area of weakness. The mistakes you made in the past will help you learn and grow. God will forgive your sins if you ask Him with a sincere and honest heart.

First John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

If you have any secret sins in your life right now, don’t go another day without sharing them with your parents or a wise older woman. Pray that God will give you the courage to be open and honest. Even if it’s something “small,” take care of it today. You will be freed from that bondage, and that is the best place to be!

Sin will take you further than you want to go. It will keep you longer than you want to stay. And it will cost you more than you want to pay. —Unknown

About Author

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog ( and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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