Love is in the air. If the month of February had to be described in emojis, we’d pick anything involving hearts and flowers, right?
Since love and romance are on our minds right now (and since I’m the only male member of this blog team!), I thought I’d answer a few questions about love and relationships from a guy’s perspective.
Before we dive in, let me ask you to take these answers with a grain of salt (or a few grains of salt). Some of this is simply from my experience or perspective, and the answer might change if you asked another guy. If you disagree with something, that’s okay. Unless it’s Scripture. You can take that to the bank!
Question 1: Why should I date a godly guy?
Whew. Where do I start?
Maybe you’ve heard Paul’s words to believers in 2 Corinthians 6:14: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
One of the goals of marriage is to draw each other closer to Christ. How can an unbeliever be a part of that if he hasn’t met Christ himself? An unbeliever’s priorities are also going to be different than yours. No matter how much he serves, loves his family, or says that he loves you, his number one priority won’t ever be Christ. It can’t be if he doesn’t know Him.
As a Christian, Christ is our number one priority. We need to only link (or “yoke”) our lives closely with those with that same priority.
Q: What qualities in a girl are noticeable to a guy?
There are some qualities that any godly guy should be attracted to. Qualities like:
- A good relationship with the Lord.
- Loving others.
If we look at Titus 2, the entire chapter is filled with great qualities that a guy should look for in a girl (and that you should look for in a guy).
In addition to what I mentioned above, for me humor is key. I figure, life’s not easy, and if we can find something to laugh about together, that’s going to help us get through so much.
Another quality that I find attractive is the ability to carry on a conversation. I’ve met so many people who don’t know how to have an intelligent conversation. I think we can all be improving in this area. (I’m definitely not perfect at it!) Finally, I find someone incredibly attractive who’s unashamed to be themselves. They don’t try to define themselves by others’ opinions of them; they’re comfortable in their own skin.
Q: Are guys as anxious about dating as girls are?
I think it depends on the guy. If a guy can rest in the Lord about the future, knowing that his future is already planned out and that God has his best in mind, then there shouldn’t be too much frantic worrying about “who should I date?!” This doesn’t mean that a guy won’t ever worry about dating. I would imagine all of us have some concern/worry in that area. But there’s a verse in 1 Peter 5:7 that reminds us that instead of worrying, we should cast our anxieties on Jesus. Why? “Because he cares for you.”
Are you tempted to worry about dating? Give it to the Lord, and trust in His plan. You’re not looking for a perfect guy (there’s no such thing!), but one who knows where to go when he’s tempted, tried, confused, or anxious: He goes to the Lord.
The Most Important Thing
I hope this peek inside my brain has given you a little bit of insight into one guy’s perspective on dating. The most important thing to do in any relationship is to keep the Lord at the center of everything. Do that, and everything else will fall into its right place.
- What quality (or qualities) do you find most attractive in a guy?
- How is the world’s view of love and romance different from the Bible’s view of love and romance?
If you have any questions that you want to see addressed in an upcoming blog, write them in a comment below and I’ll do my best to answer them soon!
PS: Here’s another reason to share your questions with us. We’re giving away a copy of the new Lies Young Women Believe with each post this month. Leave a comment for your chance to win.