Is It Okay To . . .?

Sometimes, as Christians, we can get pretty caught up in the “thou shalt nots.”

Sure, we probably know we . . .

  • shouldn’t lie.
  • shouldn’t covet.
  • shouldn’t date non-Christians.

We probably even know some of the “shoulds” that matter to God.

We should:

  • read our Bibles.
  • pray.
  • honor our parents.

But sometimes, the difference between what we should do and what we shouldn’t do isn’t so obvious. For example:

    • Is it okay to kiss before marriage?
    • Is it okay to have specific dreams if God has a plan for your life anyway?
    • Is it okay to want to be famous?

Paul addressed chewing on tough questions like these in Hebrews 5:14:

But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.

Discernment is a fancy word for being able to see a situation clearly. It is the ability to know the difference between the “should” and the “thou shalt nots.” But did you notice how Paul said we get it? Through practice! Just like you have to practice your free throws in basketball or your sheet music in band, learning how to figure out God’s best in every situation takes practice.

So . . . we are going to practice together on this blog in the coming weeks.

To kick off our series, I need to hear from you. Do you have a question about what is and isn’t okay for Christians? Nothing is off limits. The tougher the question, the more we will have to practice distinguishing good from evil.

Leave me a comment below, completing this sentence.

Is it okay for Christians to . . .?

I’ll start answering your questions later this week. I can’t wait to hear from you and look forward to practicing discernment together!

About Author


Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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