My New Fashion Obsession

In yesterday’s post, I talked about my desperate attempts to appear beautiful to the guys around me. I didn’t understand that Psalm 45:11 included me:

“The king is enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your Lord.”

All the time I was looking for love and acceptance, I actually had it! My Creator King opened His arms wide to me time after time.

“How precious to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I would count them, they are more than the sand. I awake, and I am still with you” (Psalm 139:17–18).

“The LORD your God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud singing” (Zephaniah 3:17).

After seeking acceptance from guys and never finding what I needed, I finally turned and ran into my heavenly Daddy’s arms. Everything changed.

Well, almost everything. I still want to look beautiful, don’t get me wrong. And I still try to wear stylish clothes. But my motivation—my obsession—has dramatically changed. Rather than distracting guys from God by trying to draw their attention to me, I now long to attract them to God through the way I dress, move, talk, and live.

How about you? What’s your obsession? Who are you dressing for?

About Author

Paula Marsteller no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her two young sons and seeking to practice "radically ordinary hospitality." She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in Central New York. You can catch her writing on

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