How to Stand Firm

“Raise your hand if you believe that sex is only meant for marriage.”

The health teacher in my public high school made this statement to my co-ed class of thirty students.

I don’t think this question was intended to humiliate or alienate. It was meant to make a point about “being healthy” in this area of life. Since I grew up in the “Bible Belt,” I expected most students in the class to raise their hands.

They didn’t.

It was just me and one other girl.

I looked around the room and attempted to hide the disbelief on my face. How can this be? I remember thinking to myself. I knew many of those classmates. I thought I knew their beliefs. I could hardly believe they didn’t raise their hands.

To prod us, my teacher asked us to explain why we felt the way we did. The other girl went first, and her reasons were not religiously based. Then it was my turn.

Twenty-eight pairs of non-agreeing eyes watched me. I took a deep breath and told them that I was a Christian and that I believed God designed sex for marriage. I said that my beliefs about sexuality came from the Bible and that I tried to live what I read in the pages of God’s Word.

My teacher moved on with her lesson, and I finally started breathing again.

Not Ashamed

When I tell that story, people often ask if I felt embarrassed that I raised my hand or wished I had just kept it down.

The answer? No.

In that moment, I felt compassion for the other students. I kept thinking thoughts like:

  • Did they not know that having sex outside of marriage could harm them?
  • Did they not understand that our bodies are sacred?
  • Would they all miss God’s best in the area of sexuality because they’d believed lies about how sex is supposed to work?

The experience gave me much to think about and opened my eyes to the fact that there are so many people who need the Lord.

Years later, I’ve had plenty of time to think about why I was able to stand up for my faith. It comes down to this . . .

I really believe what the Bible says.

I really believe the Bible is the infallible Word of God. It’s not something I think could be true or is a collection of nice stories. I believe God’s Word to the core of my soul. Without believing in the absolute authority of the Bible, you cannot effectively stand up for your faith. 

Even the great evangelist Billy Graham had to come to this decision as a young person. A fellow evangelist admitted he wasn’t sure if the Bible was 100 percent accurate, and it troubled Graham deeply. Soon after, he went for a walk in the woods and saw a tree stump. He laid his Bible on it and opened it. He prayed and told God that from that moment, he would never question the authority of the Bible or that it was God’s holy Word. Due to this core belief, he was able to share the gospel effectively to millions.

What do you believe?

  • Do you really believe the Bible is the Word of God?
  • Do you try to live your life by what it says?
  • Could you stand up for your faith in this type of situation—in front of your peers who didn’t agree with your stance?

I cannot answer these questions for you. I can only hope that your answer to all three is a resounding “yes”! If not, then I pray that God will show you the truth of His Word.

What helps you stand up for your faith? Let us know below!

About Author

Sarah Garrett is a passionate educator and founder of the Transformed4More Ministries that she runs with her identical twin sister. It is her desire to reach struggling teenagers and tell them about the transformative power and love of God. Her book, "So, You Think You Are Ready to Date?" released in October 2017.

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