Our Favorite Modesty Hacks

Big tears streamed down my face. I just knew I was destined to a life of drabby, old-fashioned clothing. I was sixteen, and my parents and I were having another modesty conversation.

I wanted to be fashionable, but I felt like my parents were dooming me to a life of turtlenecks and bonnets. They did their best to explain that modesty didn’t have to look old-fashioned. They encouraged me to have fun and explore styles but not to compromise on my modesty standards.

Don’t compromise your modesty standards, just get creative.

After years of trial, error, tears, and lots of creative thinking, I’ve finally come to understand the balance of fashion and modesty my parents were pushing for. They were right! I can dress modestly while still looking totally adorable. I don’t have to choose one or the other.

Maybe you’ve experienced a “tears streaming down your face” moment, too. You want to have fun with your fashion, look trendy, but still remain modest. You feel discouraged because you can’t seem to find the balance.

Good news! I’ve enlisted a pro to help us. Rebekah Baird is the founder of the blog Hello Modesty. Rebekah has a passion for encouraging Christian girls in the areas of fashion, beauty, and modesty. (She also happens to be my sister!)

How do you dress modestly while looking totally adorable in the process?

I’ve learned that it takes a lot of creativity to dress fashionably and modestly. It’s not impossible; it just takes extra work. Creativity is the name of the game! When I see a new fashion trend hit the stores, I creatively think of ways to make that trend work in a modest way.

What are some of your favorite modesty hacks?

I absolutely love modesty hacks! They help me maintain my fun sense of fashion while still remaining modest. A few of my favorites are:

  • Denim jackets over tight shirts or shirts that don’t have enough coverage.
  • Long shirt/dresses to add extra coverage over the rear area.
  • Camisoles. I wear them under everything to add coverage up top and to keep my midriff from showing.

Can you share with us a few of your favorite trendy pieces?

I love the neck scarf (not to be confused with a regular scarf) because it adds a really cute touch to just a plain outfit. Hairstyles make a big difference with the outfits. I personally love cute hairstyles because they add a super fun touch. I also love a fun lip color. I feel like it adds a great pop to the outfit.

Do you have any wisdom or advice to share?

Modesty doesn’t have to be about dressing old-fashioned; you can dress trendy in a modest and feminine way. It just takes a little extra effort. Don’t compromise your modesty standards, just get creative.

It’s your turn.

  • How do you maintain modesty while still dressing fashionably?
  • What are a few of your favorite modesty hacks?

PS: For more tips and tricks from Rebekah, check out her blog Hello Modesty.

About Author

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog (www.GirlDefined.com) and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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