Falling in Love with Strangers

It was a sunny Friday afternoon, and I had just finished attending a book publishing conference. I walked to the parking garage and hopped in my truck. Yikes! The parking garage had been empty when I pulled in that morning, but had completely filled up while I was away. Getting out of a parking garage in a big Texas truck is nearly impossible. As I slowly started to inch my way out, I noticed the driver in the car waiting to take my parking spot was a handsome guy. He had a big smile on his face as he watched me.

As I drove past him, I thought, That guy was flirting with me! I pulled out of the parking garage and quickly found myself thinking about that smiling, handsome guy. Before my thoughts got carried away, I stopped myself and remembered I don’t even know that guy. I reminded myself he was a total stranger, and I would most likely never see him again.

Thanks to that quick “flirting with a stranger” moment, I realized just how easily we as girls can get our thoughts all tangled up in guys. Guys we have never met. Guys we hardly know. And guys who give us the slightest bit of attention. I don’t know about you, but I can create an entire fantasy world, practically walking myself down the wedding aisle to a guy who I don’t even know. Are any of you girls feeling me on this one?

Thankfully, I know I’m not the only girl who struggles with this sort of thing. I was recently talking with some girlfriends who admitted they tend to daydream over guys, too. They told me their weakness is celebrities, guys in movies, TV shows, and even Pinterest pictures. They asked me what I currently do to avoid getting emotionally caught up in a guy. Here’s what I told them.

I avoid getting emotionally entangled with a guy by controlling my thoughts. If I allow myself to think sweet, romantic thoughts about a guy, I become emotionally entangled.

It’s an idea that comes straight out of God’s Word.

Second Corinthians 10:5 says, “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ” (emphasis added).

I challenge you to try it. The next time you get emotionally wrapped up in a guy, ask yourself these questions:

  1. Have I been daydreaming about him?
  2. Have I been constantly thinking about him?
  3. Have I been planning how I am going to see/talk to him next?
  4. Have I been constantly wondering what he is up to?

If any of your answers are yes, then it’s time to take control of your thoughts. It might not be easy! You have to be intentional to not allow yourself to constantly or romantically think about guys.

The next time your thoughts go toward that boy, stop and recite a Bible verse, pray, and/or sing a praise song. You’ll soon realize your emotions don’t have to run free and wild when it comes to guys. With the power of God and the purposeful decision to choose your thoughts, you can avoid “falling in love” with total strangers.

When it comes to your thoughts toward guys, are you an emotional roller coaster?
Do you need to be more intentional about choosing your thoughts?
How have you been intentional to guard your mind and heart in the past?

About Author

Bethany Beal

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog (www.GirlDefined.com) and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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