Dear Parent Hater

Dear Parent Hater,

You’ve been so on my heart and mind this month. I’ve wanted to encourage you with a truth that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt.

God is still a worker of miracles! He can—and wants—to change your heart and reconcile your relationship so that you actually love the parents you currently want to wish off the face of this planet.

I know. I was there. For years. Beating my pillow, crying, dreaming of the day I could leave home and never look back.

But through the days and years of pain, God began to work a transformation in my heart and then in our relationship. The same can be true for you, no matter how deep the pain they’ve inflicted. Keep running to God with this pain. Keep choosing to forgive and entrust yourself to the One who doesn’t miss a thing—the perfect Judge who will not allow one sin to remain unpunished. Choosing Forgiveness

If you don’t have a clue how to actually forgive, I’ve got a book you have to read. It’s Choosing Forgiveness by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, and it’s incredibly practical. I’m going to give away copies to five of you who post below. To the rest of you, I encourage you to get a copy at your local bookstore or online. Maybe you could even request one for Christmas.

Hang in there, friend. Ask and trust God for the impossible. I can’t wait to talk to you in a few months or years and hear about the miracle He performed for you as you chose the pathway of freedom through forgiveness!

With love, compassion, and hope for you,  

About Author

Paula Marsteller no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her two young sons and seeking to practice "radically ordinary hospitality." She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in Central New York. You can catch her writing on

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