Dear Liza

Liza is my seventeen-year-old sister who loves Jesus, loves people, and is an incredible young lady. But life isn’t a breeze, and this letter is an encouragement to her (and all young women!) to pursue what really matters.

Dear Liza,

First of all, let’s get a simple fact out of the way: I am no expert at giving advice. That said, you and I have the best tool available for us to learn from—the Bible. As you grow into a godly young woman, I want to point out several observations from God’s Word that I believe will help you navigate life’s path well. I hope you will take these lessons and dig into them. Alongside each of my observations is a selection of verses that will help you dig deeper into what your heavenly Father says about each subject.

1. Ask Jesus for wisdom.

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him (James 1:5).

You will be presented with situations every day that are beyond your control and/or knowledge of how to handle. Guess what? That’s okay! Because when we’re at our wit’s end, God loves to reassure us that He has everything in His control!

Helpful verses: Proverbs 2:3–6; Proverbs 3:5–6; Jeremiah 29:12–13; Matthew 7:7–11.

2. Live a lifestyle defined by love.

I’m talking about agape love here. Agape love is:

  • Loving the unlovable.
  • Loving when you don’t feel like it.
  • Loving when you’re so irritated at someone that you never want to see them again.
  • Demonstrating love through hard times.

At some point or another you will need to extend agape love to a neighbor, a friend, a family member, or all three! This kind of love is the love God showed us when He sent Jesus, His perfect Son, to die on the cross for us. We had done nothing to deserve His love and yet He loved us anyway. This is the kind of love that will make you stand out from the crowd and give you an opportunity to proclaim Jesus’ love for the world.

Helpful verses: John 13:35; John 15:12–13; Romans 5:5, 8; Ephesians 5:1–2.

3. Take a stand for what is right.

This is something I wasn’t good at when I was your age. I grew up with a mixed bag of friends, some of whom were content to simply go with the flow. Unfortunately, that rubbed off on me. I want to challenge you to stand up for what God’s Word says is right! We live for an audience of One, and it’s God’s favor we want. Don’t be afraid of what people will say or think if you take a stand against what the world says is all right.

Proverbs 31:8 is one of my favorite verses because it’s such a great reminder to take a stand. It says, “Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute.”

Helpful verses: 1 Corinthians 15:58; 1 Corinthians 16:13; Ephesians 6:13; James 5:8.

Liza, these are only three observations in a long list that we could discuss. However, they are three that I believe to be crucial in living a Christ-honoring life to the fullest. Pursue the Lord wholeheartedly, joyfully, and consistently. Surround yourself with women who are striving to become more Christlike daily. And never forget that when others let you down, your heavenly Father is always there to comfort and love you.



About Author

Beecher Proch

Beecher Proch calls the Hill Country of Texas home. When he’s not writing, performing with his three siblings in their band, or attempting to get a smile out of someone, you’ll probably find him working on a new entrepreneurial venture. Beecher is passionate about influencing the world for Christ’s Kingdom through stories, be that blogging, writing meaningful music, or going about it the old-fashioned way and taking a pen to the page.

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