Can Marriage Stay Sweet for 20 Years?

In case you’ve never seen the movie, “You’ve Got Mail,” Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan) owns a little book store called “The Shop Around The Corner.” Joe Fox (Tom Hanks) is about to put her out of business with his discount-priced chain bookstore. Ironically, they aren’t just competitors. Unknown to either of them, they are falling in love with each other…on-line. But can a romantic relationship survive when Joe does, in fact, put Kathleen out of business? You’ll just have to watch it to find out. (And savor every perfectly written line! My favorite is when Kathleen writes to Joe: “Once I read a story about a butterfly in the subway, and today, I saw one. It got on at 42nd, and off at 59th, where, I assume it was going to Bloomingdales to buy a hat that will turn out to be a mistake – as almost all hats are.”)

On our second day, Bob woke me early and we had a morning of random fun before he drove me further up Manhattan and got me out of the car. He handed me a map and we began our excursion to find the actual Brownstone that was Kathleen Kelly’s in the movie. We found it, posed for photos and then I was ready to go…but he kept wandering around. I admit that I was frustrated that he seemed to want to keep walking. (After all, we had walked a lot already!)  And when we got to the 192nd Street Park, it felt like we were walking in circles. (That’s because we were!) I kept saying: “I think we were already here! Maybe we should just go back to the Brownstone and rest!” (And then I would add a subtle yawn and stretch!)

He persisted. As we got back to the top of the park (for the third time), I suddenly knew where we were headed! I could see it! I pointed it out to him and he said: “Yep, that’s it!” It was the flower garden of the closing scene—and most romantic—in “You’ve Got Mail.”

Here’s Bob and Dannah…ten year’s later!

Oh, I wish this for you, my friends. I wish for you to find ONE MAN to love for your whole life long (if that is God’s plan for your life). I wish that you’ll beat the odds and grow old together like Bob and I. And, as an added bonus, I wish that you’ll find him to be as romantic on your twentieth wedding anniversary as my sweet husband was on ours!

About Author

Dannah Gresh is completely in love with her chocolate labradoodle, Stormie. (But just for the record, she doesn't like dog kisses.) She's been married to Bob for over twenty years and loves that he brings her "freshly sharpened bouquets of pencils." She's the mom to Lexi, Autumn, and Rob. Oh, and she co-wrote Lies Young Women Believe with Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth!

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