Breaking the Silence on Sexuality

A few months ago, my sister Kristen and I began praying about a theme for our upcoming summer conference. We talked, prayed, talked some more, and still came up empty-handed.

We didn’t want to settle on a topic just because it seemed interesting or exciting. We wanted a topic that would genuinely help and challenge the girls attending. We wanted to host a conference that would meet the greatest needs of the girls who would attend. We just weren’t sure what those needs were.

We decided to scroll through our email inbox for inspiration. We needed to know what topics and questions were trending. That’s when it hit us: Girls desperately need to know God’s truth in the areas of purity and sexuality.

Email after email was filled with a similar tone of desperation:

“I’m struggling in the area of purity.”
“Nobody knows I’m dealing with this.”
“You’re the first people I’ve told.”
“Please help!”

It was in this moment that we realized the desperate need to bring the topic of God-defined sexuality to the light. Sexual struggles aren’t just a guy problem; they are a human problem. Yet our overflowing inboxes reminded us that many Christian girls feel like they are the only ones who struggle and feel scared to reach out for help.

We want to debunk this myth.

Your True Sexuality

We were designed by God with bodies, minds, and emotions that connect deeply with the opposite sex. Sex is His plan and His design, not ours or Hollywood’s.

Sex is His plan and His design, not ours or Hollywood’s.

So why do so many of us struggle to view our sexuality in a biblical way? Why are afraid or ashamed to talk about this area of our lives? As a result of this hush-hush mindset, many of us struggle all by ourselves. Instead of opening up and reaching out for help, we keep it inside and struggle alone.

As you may have guessed, Kristen and I decided to focus our conference on the themes of sexuality and purity. We want to open up a conversation and help young Christian women know that they are not alone. You are not alone!

Instead of struggling silently, let’s open God’s Word and talk about sex from a biblical perspective. God isn’t shy about the topic, and we shouldn’t be either.

Rolling Out Radical Purity ’17

I am beyond excited for the Radical Purity Conference happening this weekend in San Antonio, Texas (my hometown). I’m incredibly excited and grateful that God has provided the resources needed for Girl Defined to host this event. Having the opportunity to talk about sex and purity from a biblical perspective is something I’m thrilled to do. (Here’s a peek at our promo video.)

Even if you don’t plan to join us at the conference, I want you to know that you are not alone. You are not alone in your struggles to understand sexuality and stay pure. God isn’t surprised or shocked by what you’ve done (or are doing). He created you, and He has a good purpose for your sexuality.

By looking to God’s Word for answers, you can live in a way that is joyful and Christ-centered. Your sexuality doesn’t have to be a scary or shameful part of your life. It can be beautiful and exciting!

I encourage you to check out these other blog posts that we’ve written on these topics. We are some of your biggest fans and truly want to see you grow in wisdom in this area.

God’s Design for Sex Is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap Imitation

How a Conference on Sex Helped Me in My Singleness

6 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity

Mind-Virgin: Saving More than Just Your Body

23 Guidelines to Protect Your Purity

8 Ways to Fight for Purity

Sexual Purity Means Using Protection

Being a Girl in a Transgendered World

Help Us Talk About This More

If you could ask us to write anything on sexuality or purity, what would you ask us to write?

What are your biggest questions or concerns on the topic of your sexuality?

Leave us a comment with your answers below.

Would you also take a moment to pray for the Radical Purity Conference? Ask the Lord to show many young women His plan for sexuality and to assure them that they are not alone in the battle for purity.

About Author

Bethany Beal

After a brief experience in the modeling industry, Bethany’s eyes were opened to how self-absorbed and lost her generation of young women really are. She and her older sister were inspired to start a blog ( and wrote a book Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity. Their passion is to help young women find God’s truth about beauty and womanhood and the freedom that comes from living a radically different life for Christ.

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