Boyfriends vs. Boy Friends

Our readers love to talk about God’s truth. Several months ago, we offered the chance for LYWB.com readers to submit posts for our blog. The response was overwhelming. You’ll be able to catch the writing of these one-time guest bloggers in the coming months. These are readers just like you who are striving to live out God’s truth. Since these are guest bloggers, their style or approach may be a little different than you’re used to, but we’ve read every word and we think they’ve got something important to say. In fact, check this great post by Rebekah Snyder.

I grew up sandwiched between three brothers. Because of this, I spent many of my childhood years playing with boys. And while I noticed the differences between boys and girls, I also noticed the similarities. Over the years, I learned to appreciate boy friends in the same manner I appreciate my girlfriends. In fact, sometimes I need to escape the drama that can often exist in a group of girls and simply hang out with some guys.

But the older I get, the more people inform me that I can’t “just” be friends with a guy. They keep telling me that every guy/girl relationship has an underlying current of romance. While I’ll agree that a relationship can easily turn that way, I don’t think that all relationships are destined to do so. And if that’s the case, then I guess I’m just a really big flirt because I interact with a lot of guys (most of whom I’ve known since elementary school).

Just a glance at our culture proves that there is a huge emphasis placed on romance. Perhaps it is that mentality that keeps us from seeing that it is possible for a guy and a girl to “just” be friends. Because we were created differently, it probably isn’t the greatest idea to make a guy your best friend, but you can build a healthy relationship that isn’t based on romance.

Remember, God created Eve to be Adam’s helpmate. He fashioned her for one man, not the entire human race. God also created you to marry one man, so don’t live your life as if every guy you meet is that one special person. You do have to exercise caution when interacting with guys because men are also familiar with the “no such thing as friends” lie, and what you never want to do is lead a guy on. There are certain friends to whom you bare your heart and soul, and then there are others who you simply enjoy being with on a more casual level. Drop the romantic notions and get to know a few guys on that casual level. You’ll probably be blessed as greatly as I’ve been.

Note: For more on guy/girl friendships, check out these posts from the archives: Ask Erin: “How do I interact with guys just as a friend?, Can guys and girls just be friends?, and Can guys and girls just be friends? Part 2. 

About the Author: Rebekah Snyder is walking in the romance of singleness and enjoys making new friends regardless of their gender. Her passion and purpose is to see her generation rise up and truly live each moment of their lives. You can see how she has determined to embrace each moment at Beyond Waiting.

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Erin is passionate about pointing young women toward God's Truth. She is the author of several books and a frequent speaker and blogger to women of all ages. Erin lives on a small farm in the midwest with her husband and kids. When she's not writing, you can find her herding goats, chickens, and children.

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