From the LYWB.com Team: Hi, girls! Because we want to point you toward great resources that will help you choose truth, you will start to see the occasional book review here on the blog. Just because we review a book doesn’t mean we agree with every word between its covers, but we do think it’s worth considering as you add to your bookshelf. Check out this review of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married by Ben Stuart.
The way people meet and form romantic relationships has changed drastically in the last fifteen years. With the surge of technology, online dating, social media, dating apps, and cohabitation, many are left wondering, How am I supposed to figure out relationships with all these options?
In his book, Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age, Ben Stuart tackles this question. He weaves modern questions with biblical truths and clearly shows how to navigate relationships in a fulfilling and God-honoring way. Here’s a sneak peek of each section of the book.
First Things First
The tagline for this chapter reads, “We must get a relationship with God right before we can get a relationship with a guy or girl right.” Stuart doesn’t want the reader to settle for a cheap version of love, so he reiterates the importance of our relationship with God and provides biblical items that show God’s love.
Many singles spend years pining for a relationship. Stuart wants the reader to completely avoid this mindset and describes the purpose of singleness and how that relates to serving God and growing as a person. The freedom of the single years offers the unique opportunity of devotion to God that many attached people cannot have. This section focuses on the life of the apostle Paul as an example on how to live the single years well.
Stuart makes it abundantly clear that before we start dating, we need to be serving the Lord and “running the race” God has set before us. This section also focuses on finding the right person to date, four pitfalls to avoid, good character, and chemistry, along with seven principles of how to date.
Before wrapping up with a biblical case study of Isaac and Rebekah, Stuart devotes an entire chapter to sex. He describes God’s design for sex and relays how many people deal with deep hurts and regrets today because they let their sexual “fire” burn out of control.
“But how do I know if they’re ‘the one’?” is the main question Stuart addresses in this section. (We talk a lot about that here on the blog, too! Type “the one” into our blog search engine to find out more.) Stuart’s book outlines four ways to determine the answer. He also shows how to bring together your family, finances, future, and faith. The biblical case study dissects the relationship of Solomon and the Shulamite woman.
In this section, Stuart describes God’s design for marriage and how it should reflect Him. He also tackles everyone’s “favorite” topic of submission and how a husband is to love his wife. The biblical case study centers on Priscilla and Aquila who were integral with helping spread the apostle Paul’s ministry.
Love Is Learned
Many people believe that you either get how to do relationships or you don’t. This is not the case. Anyone can learn how to have good relationships, and this book helps do just that. No matter what relationship stage you find yourself in, this book charts a clear path to follow, and I highly recommend it.
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