Why Blonde Bombshells Don’t Have What It Takes

From the LYWB.com Team: To celebrate the release of their new book, we’ve turned the blog over to the ladies at Girl Defined this week. You already know Bethany; she’s a regular contributor to this blog. She runs Girl Defined with her sister Kristen, the author of this post. Learn all about them and their new book here.

  • She starred in thirty major films.
  • She was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite.”
  • She launched her own production company.
  • She was voted the second greatest movie star of all time by Premiere Magazine.
  • She was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History.”

This blonde bombshell was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing—happiness.

Sadly, this famous superstar committed suicide on August 5, 1962. She was only thirty-six. Her makeup-covered face, dyed blonde hair, and sparkling clothes only hid a hurting heart.

You may have already figured out that this is the true story of one of America’s most iconic women, Marilyn Monroe.

My sister Bethany and I wrote a more detailed version of Marilyn’s story in the opening chapters of our new book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty Femininity and Identity.

As we’ve studied the life of this beautiful and famous woman, we can’t help but ask:
“Why would a woman who had everything still commit suicide?”
“Why wasn’t the fame, beauty, money, and guys enough to satisfy her?”

Following in Marilyn’s Footsteps

Instead of questioning Marilyn’s fruitless quest for happiness, many of us follow right in her footsteps. Perhaps without even realizing it, many of us have bought into our culture’s popular lies about beauty, femininity, and identity and find ourselves walking down the same dead-end road in our quest to
find happiness and satisfaction.

We will forever struggle with feelings of worthlessness and depression until we turn to the only One who has the power to fill our void.

Even as Christian girls, many of us buy into the lies that to be worth anything we need to be pretty, sexy, smart, athletic, skinny, wealthy, popular, etc. Perhaps, we believe that our worth as a female is based on our beauty and on our personal accomplishments.

In Girl Defined, we refer to these crafty lies as “counterfeit femininity.” They’re a fake version of the real thing, because the moment we allow culture to define our womanhood is the moment we take our first wrong turn.

Whether you’re a “blonde bombshell” or the girl next door, when we define our womanhood based on anything other than God’s timeless Word, we will always end up feeling empty.

We will forever struggle with feelings of worthlessness and depression until we turn to the only One who has the power to fill our void.

True worth, identity, and satisfaction cannot be found outside of God’s beautiful design. And that’s where the best news comes into play: Our status of worthiness has nothing to do with us and everything to do with God.

A Daughter of the King

Our worth doesn’t come from anything we can do, but from everything Christ already did for us. If you’re a Christian, God calls you a child of God. And because you’re a child of God, He looks at you and sees royalty. You are a daughter of the most high King, and that makes you a princess.

Psalm 139:13­–14 says, “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

Our worth doesn’t come from anything we can do, but from everything Christ already did for us.

Not only are you a child of the King, God knit you together to look just the way you are. Just like an artist creating a masterpiece, God handcrafted your hair color, eye color, skin tone, height, nose shape, ears, and body to look just the way He wanted it to.

When God looks at you He sees:

  • A princess
  • A masterpiece
  • A beloved daughter.

As your Creator, God’s the only One who owns the rights to say how worthy you are.

Fix Your Eyes

The secret to grasping your worth is to keep your eyes and heart on the truth. Keep your mind filled with what God’s truth and ignore the ever changing-standards of our culture. Learn to pray Psalm 16:11:

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

I can’t encourage you enough to learn more about God’s beautiful design for womanhood! In addition to running to God’s Word to understand your God-given design, I hope you’ll grab a copy of our new book
and continue to discover God’s amazing design for your life as a female!

We’d love to hear from you.

  • Why do you think Marilyn’s search for happiness ended so tragically?
  • Who or what are you allowing to define your worth and value?
  • Do you truly view yourself as a daughter of the King?

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