Are you letting Him be that to you?

Have you ever had that experience where you’re trying to comfort a friend and you tell him or her a truth about who God is, and they look at you with a blank expression? Me, too!

Well, I recently realized why. I was reading this great devotional by Ruth Myers, and she helped me understand that my words don’t mean anything . . . until my friends and I reach out, grab them, and personalize them. Here—Ruth can explain better than I can:

“The most important truth for my life is that God wants me to know Him intimately, personally. Yes, He wants me to know the concepts about Him that He has given us in His Word. But He wants me to take each of those truths and allow Him to be that to me in my personal experience . . .

“To really know God means that we see what He wants to be in relationship to us and then, more and more in the experiences of daily life, let Him be that to us—count on Him to be that.

“I have found Psalm 31 very helpful in this. In verse 2 David prays, ‘Be my rock of refuge, a strong fortress to save me.’ Then in verse 3 he says, ‘Since you are my rock and my fortress . . .’ At first I thought this sounded like double-talk: Be to me a rock because You are my rock. Then I realized that David is saying, ‘I have chosen You to be my rock; now be that for me in my situation right now. Be to me now what You are.’ Isn’t that great? . . . We find out [who God] is and then accept in our heart that He’s that to me!

So how about it? I’m pretty sure you know some serious truth about who God is, because you’re on the Lies Young Women Believe: And the TRUTH That Sets Them Free website! But take it from me. It’s not enough to know truth about God. Every day—every minute—we decide whether we’ll let Him be that to us! I’d love to hear from you. Is there a disconnect between your words and your personal experience? Are you letting, experiencing, expecting God to be YOUR Father? YOUR Best Love? YOUR Protector?

About Author

Paula Marsteller

Paula Marsteller no longer tries to catch guys' attention by swallowing live goldfish, arm wrestling, and jumping down flights of stairs. (She's married to a wonderful man now!) She spends her days caring for her two young sons and seeking to practice "radically ordinary hospitality." She's the author of Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, and she and her family live in Central New York. You can catch her writing on

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