The statistics are staggering. An estimated 160,000 students miss school each day due to fear of bullies. Six out of ten teens witness a “mean girl” attack every day. This seems to be really magnified in the first few weeks of school as the pecking order is being established. Let’s talk about it, because I think God has a lot to say about this subject.
Check your heart to see if you are the bully.
As a woman who ministers to teens, I witness a lot of girls tangling themselves up in cat fights. Sometimes it is my “cream of the crop” girls who are digging into God with all their hearts, but hormones and bad hair days get the worst of them. Are you that girl? Is the bullying you are experiencing because you are dishing some out?
James 3:10 is one of my favorite scriptures of truth for girls struggling with the sin of unkindness. It says: “From the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way.” The surrounding verses are convicting. Read them! If we call ourselves Christians and bless the name of God, it is an abomination for hateful curses to spew from the same lips. Repent! And find ways to bless those you have been bullying. Ask your mom or youth pastor’s wife to hold you accountable.
Are you being bullied?
Jesus knew a little bit about that. So did David. So did Paul. Open the Word, and check it out. You are not alone. I have watched students who struggle with mean girls grow tremendously in the Lord if they press into it with the right attitude. Memorize Romans 12:20: “But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Heaping burning coals was meant to be a way of comforting a traveling who was cold and needed to be warmed. God desires for us to create a great blessing for those who hurt us.
If returning the hatred with kindness doesn’t have an impact and you continue to struggle, consider a drastic approach. Get out of the school! There are alternatives. If you’re in a public school, find a good Christian school or talk to your parents about homeschooling. If you’re in a Christian school where bullying is happening, check out homeschooling.
Don’t be afraid to take drastic measures, but start with your heart. What’s happening in there is far more significant than what is happening at school!