Are Guys Worshiping You?

I recently stepped off a train behind a girl who "innocently" (the quotes indicate an intense amount of sarcasm) asked directions from five well-groomed guys. As she walked away, ten eyeballs followed her every move—and curve.

Girls are smart. Being a girl, you are totally going to understand this: your purpose (along with the purpose of every other human being on earth including guys) is to reflect and represent God on earth. Basically, you are to show the world what God is like. Check this out:

Then God said, "Let us make man in our own image, after our likeness. …" So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them (Gen. 1:26–27, emphasis added).

So what does it mean to show the world what God is like? For starters, the way you look at guys, talk with guys, and interact with guys should point them in the direction of God. That’s what reflecting means; that’s what representing means.

boy offering girl a flowerThe moment you stop reflecting God you begin magnifying yourself. The moment you stop representing God you begin promoting yourself. The "created" begins to take the place of the Creator.

When you do not live out your purpose, guys end up worshiping YOU rather than God. But your purpose is not to replace God or be God, but rather to show guys what God is like so that GOD will be worshiped, not you.

REALITY CHECK: Let’s face it; there are guys (you might call them "creepers") who totally worship you even though you don’t intend it to be that way. That kind of guy misinterprets how you look at him, what you say, and even your well-intentioned "high five." There’s not much you can do about him. Just be praying that God’s Spirit works in his heart to show the dude how wrong he really is.

However, ladies, sometimes what you do and say is very intentional (you CAN do much about this). There are times when you give a guy a certain "look," a flirtatious laugh, or a teasing touch, all with the intention of getting a guy’s attention or affection.

How do you know if you intentionally want a guy to worship you? It’s all in your motives. When you have a guy in mind, do you think these thoughts?

I wonder what he will think when he sees me in this!
If I act "dumb" I can get more of his attention.
This picture will really get him excited!
I hope he chooses me over her.

I’ll suggest we pray together so that he can hold my hand.

Laughing at all his jokes will totally make me attractive to him.

I’ll "pretend" to bump into him so that he will talk to me.

Although culture is bombarding you with all kinds of thoughts, a constant question that needs to be on you mind is, "Why?"

Why am I wearing this?
Why am I acting like this?

Why am I saying this?
Why am I hanging out with him?

Why am I looking at him like this?

Why am I writing this note to him?

Why am I talking with him?
Why am I praying with him?

Why am I going on this trip with him?

Why am I sending him this picture?
Why am I going out with him?

All of these questions need to end with your purpose (to show guys what God is like). If not, then you need to be re-oriented to the truth of the gospel beginning with your purpose, which can only be realized and lived out by faith in Jesus Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit.

What about you? How do you get a guy’s attention or affection? What questions are going through your mind when you are with a group of guys? How do you show guys what God is like?

About Author

Brad Neese is an evolving leader captivated by the child-like simplicity and the deep-ocean complexity of the Gospel. He is a graduate of Cedarville University & Dallas Theological Seminary and is currently a Student Ministry Pastor in southwest Michigan. One loving, godly, and nurturing woman graciously agreed to covenant with him in marriage over a decade ago, and out of all the 6.8 billion people in the world, only four get to call him ‘Dad.’ But above all this, Brad follows Jesus. No one else.

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