A High School Graduate With A Different Kind Of Dream

“Hello, my name is ________. I am graduating from __________ High School, and I plan on attending _____________ College.” Those words were uttered and those blanks filled in by almost two dozen high school seniors, all affirmed through nods and smiles of spectators in the audience. But there was one girl who broke that rhythmic monotony by completely deleting the final phrase and inserting her own statement. Instead of “I plan on attending ____________ College,” she grinned and said, “I just want to be a mom!”

College has become an expectation imposed on your generation. For better or for worse, previous generations, in their individual and corporate achievements, have significantly influenced you and your future. Assumptions have now become factual—those with college degrees usually have a higher standard of living, the most potential for advancement, and can better compete in the job market.

Many girls, like yourself, are bombarded with conversations, mail, blogs, seminars, and books about choosing the right college, the major that suits you best, and of course, financing. But rarely is there talk of motherhood.

One of the great leaders of the early church, Timothy, was heavily influenced by his mother (and grandmother). We know that because Paul wrote to him and said, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also” (2 Tim. 1:5).

Did Timothy’s mom have a college degree? Maybe, maybe not. Did she choose the right major? Maybe, maybe not. Did she have a higher standard of living? Maybe, maybe not. Did she take out student loans? Maybe, maybe not. Did she compete in the job market? Maybe, maybe not. What we do know is that she was a mom who passed along a life filled with the gospel to the next generation, to her son.

Is college evil? No. My beautiful wife has a college degree, which has proven helpful in many ways, but it did not cloud her desire for motherhood. College degree or not, her desire is to pass along gospel-centered living to our son (and daughters).

Do you feel pressured to go to college? Do you have a desire for motherhood? What advantages does college bring to motherhood? Let me know what you are thinking …

About Author

Brad Neese is an evolving leader captivated by the child-like simplicity and the deep-ocean complexity of the Gospel. He is a graduate of Cedarville University & Dallas Theological Seminary and is currently a Student Ministry Pastor in southwest Michigan. One loving, godly, and nurturing woman graciously agreed to covenant with him in marriage over a decade ago, and out of all the 6.8 billion people in the world, only four get to call him ‘Dad.’ But above all this, Brad follows Jesus. No one else.

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