4 Things the “Same-Sex Marriage” Ruling Isn’t

I’m sure you’ve heard by now about the historic decision passed down by the Supreme Court last week legalizing gay marriage in all 50 states. I don’t know what’s happening in your world, but in mine, people are either over the moon excited or totally freaked out about the ruling. I finally deleted Twitter from my phone because the reactions on both sides were so fast and furious that my head started to spin.

Getting some distance from the hype allowed me to squeeze the Supreme Court’s decision through the grid of God’s Word. Yes, it’s true that the Court’s ruling and the changes happening right now in our culture are a big deal. But God’s Word allows us to see the bigger picture. Here’s what the Supreme Court’s ruling on “same-sex marriage” isn’t.

Four Things the “Same-Sex Marriage” Ruling Isn’t

1. It isn’t proof that same-sex marriage is God’s best.

There is no shortage of people telling you what you should think about homosexuality and “gay marriage.” Instead of listening to the chatter of the crowd, I want to challenge you to ask the most important question, “What does God think about this issue?”

Here are some resources to get you started digging into His Word for answers on this issue.

From the LYWB.com archives:

From other blogs:

I hope you’ll do some digging and discover God’s stance on this issue, but I will bottom line it for you. Homosexuality is not God’s best for us. That truth may go in and out of style. It may be debated on courtroom floors and Twitter feeds. It may or may not be backed up by the law of the land, but we cannot take the Supreme Court’s ruling as proof that God has changed His mind about how He intended sexuality to work.

Numbers 23:19 shows us the unshakable nature of God.

“God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it?”

He will not change is mind based on a court decision. His design remains what is best for us whether the courts agree or not.

2. It isn’t the most important thing we can talk about.

“And Jesus came and said to them, ‘All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age'” (Matt. 28:18–20).

These were Jesus’ last words before returning to His throne in heaven. He gave us marching orders, but they weren’t to debate sexuality, or to advocate for equality, or to fight about flags. We are to tell the world about Jesus’s love and sacrifice. We are to be busy with the business of sharing the gospel and teaching people about the Bible.

The most important conversations you can have this week are about the gospel. God is the great heart changer. As people surrender their lives to Him and begin to respond to His Word, their beliefs will be re-shaped. The most important thing we can say isn’t, “This is what I believe about homosexuality,” but rather, “Let me tell you what Jesus has done for me.”

  • Have you talked about Jesus as much as you’ve talked about “gay marriage?”
  • Have you shared the gospel as often as you’ve shared your $.02 about homosexuality?

3. It Isn’t Persecution

I don’t mean to add more shock to your system, but there are Christians around the world enduring much more than social media skirmishes.

  • Pastor Saeed Abedini is an American pastor who has been in an Iranian prison for more than 1,000 days because of his faith.
  • Christians in Jordan are being imprisoned, tortured, killed or forced to flee.
  • 1.7 million Christians in Syria are facing daily threats of kidnapping, killing, and displacement.

The truth is, being a follower of Jesus is hard. It has always been this way and will be this way until Jesus returns for us. That’s why He said this . . .

“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.” (Matt. 7:13–14).

Jesus didn’t trick us into thinking that everyone would believe like we do. He said the majority are on the “wide road” those of us who believe in Jesus and live according to His Word are in the minority. This shouldn’t shock us or cause us to doubt God or His promises. As we experience the strain of living in a country where the majority defines marriage differently than us, let us think about those who are risking more than their reputations for Jesus and pray like crazy.

4. It Isn’t the Final Word

#Lovewins has become the battle cry of those in favor of “same-sex marriage” in recent days. In a way, they are right.

“Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of many peals of thunder, crying out, ‘Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure'” (Rev. 19:6-8).

Jesus will make a second triumphant entry (Rev. 19:11). Every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that He is lord (Rom. 14:11). Those who oppose Him and His Word will be set straight (Rom. 19:15). And ultimately, those of us who have given our lives to Him will be presented to Him as a pure, spotless bride in the biggest wedding feast of all eternity. God’s love will, in fact, win.

Our hope is in Jesus. He will have the final word.

With that in mind, here are four things the Supreme Court’s ruling is.

Four Things the “Same-Sex Marriage” Ruling Is

1. It is a reminder that we live in a fallen world.

The world is terminally ill. Sometimes we forget that, but this week’s events are a good reminder that Jesus is our only Savior.

2. It is something to pray about.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” (Phil. 4:6).

Worry less. Debate less. Argue less. Pray more.

3. It is a reminder to know what you believe.

“The sum of your word is truth, and every one of your righteous rules endures forever” (Ps. 119:160).

God’s Word is truth. Study it. Ask God to help you shape your beliefs around Him and His Word instead of the culture.

4. It is a good reminder to be serious about our own sin.

As I’ve watched the news, I’ve felt this gut punch. If I was as ruthless about dealing with sin in my own life as I am at pointing it out in others, my world would be a different place.

Jesus called this plank eye syndrome. When it comes to sin, our first priority should be our own hearts.

This Is Your Moment

While this isn’t our country’s finest hour, it is a chance for young women like you to show the world how brightly Jesus’ daughters can shine for Him.

First Timothy 4:12 says it this way, “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”

You can set an example to the rest of the world by the way you discuss this volatile topic. In fact, I’d like to have that discussion right here on the blog. Let’s keep talking about the issues of sexuality, marriage, homosexuality, and culture.

  • What questions do you have about homosexuality and “gay marriage”?
  • What does this ruling mean to you?

About Author

Erin Davis is an author, blogger, and speaker who loves to see women of all ages run to the deep well of God’s Word. She is the author of many books and Bible studies including: 7 Feasts, Connected, Beautiful Encounters, and the My Name Is Erin series. She serves on the ministry team of Revive Our Hearts. When she’s not writing, you can find Erin chasing chickens and children on her small farm in the Midwest.

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